Isn't that what Maury Povich says? lol. We got the "official" results of the DNA in the mail on Friday. I have read lots of blogs of those adopting who have said how difficult seeing the birth mother photo was. I thought that since I am adopted, I would not have an issue with it. I have looked at that photo more than 100 times. It is sad. That is really the only thing to say. It shows a sad 20 year old holding a baby loosely in her arms. There is no connection there. Or at least there is a forced lack of connection in her empty eyes. I cannot imagine how difficult that was for her. I will think of her every day for a long time. I can't imagine a day not thinking of her. I identify with the emotion of being young, also 20 when I had Alli, and scared. I am grateful everyday that I live in the United States. I am grateful everyday that I had the parents I have. THANK GOD. I would have missed out on the most wonderful part of my life. To think how much Mario could have changed her is sad. She will never know. I am sure that there is peace knowing that her baby will be in a loving home, but I cannot imagine that this truly settles her decision in her mind. I did not have to make the choice. I am grateful.
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Your post made me so sad! It just made me think of so many unanswered questions our son will have as he may never have a picture or a reason as to why he was placed for adoption at the age of 1 1/2. But if it was Roma's birthmothers decision to give him up, I praise her for making one of the hardest decisions in her life. She has given this little boy a better chance at life and we are so greatful for all the love he his bringing into our family!
The more I read what you write here, the more convinced I am that you are a great mother and a good person. And although I have only "known" your mother for a short while, I think she is the same. It is wonderful that Mario will get to know both of you.
Bee
Jill, you are truly such a warm and caring person. Mario is lucky to have your loving home to come to in the near future. He is going to have a wonderful life with your whole family.
I'm convinced if the birth mother had the opportunity to get to know you, Jeff and Alli better there would be no sadness in her eyes....I pray that she is a spiritual person and that she has peace in her heart that she is doing the right thing for sweet baby Mario...
KimIndy (HTE)
You're so right that you'll think about her for a long time, but I think you'll do more than think about her, you'll talk about her to your son and celebrate her and her life and her decision with your son.
Can't wait to see the next pic!!
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